Popular dating coach and matchmaking expert for Lagos matchmakers, Nkpubre Arit Edet, highlighted the reasons why many people stay single. He claimed that even for a woman in her 40s, unresolved heartbreak would make her single.
The revered relationship coach said:
“There are too many reasons why a woman would be unmarried at 40 and these reasons are the same for men. I don’t think it’s gender-focused. A person could be unmarried at 40 because they simply don’t have marriage as part of their life plan. They had a bad experience in a relationship and haven’t healed yet. Also because they are widowed or divorced and not willing to give love another try.”
“Another reason may be they are too focused on work and have not really given themselves time to be social. They don’t go out and never meet anyone. They have a strict list of what their future spouse should have so dismissed others too soon. They are concerned with the type of spouse their family tells them to have so they feel like they don’t have a choice in choosing a spouse. They have bad qualities that could be a general turn-off, are defensive, and unwilling to change. They were focused on other aspects of life and didn’t dedicate their thoughts to finding a spouse till 40. They are single ‘I am married to Jesus, Satan leave me alone.”
“I think it’s nice to have the option to choose who I am interested in first and then see if they are interested in me too.”
Yes, I would advise anyone interested in a person to let it be known to that individual. I don’t think there is a particular gender that reserves the right to express their interest.”