The Americans have learnt a lot of lessons about how they treat their kids, most people are conscious that they are not supposed to beat their kids anyway, they consider it a serious offence. Although many Nigerians might not like this way of raising a child.
Most of us still claim that we raise the child to be spoiled and soft to the surrounding area when we don’t really flaunt the child. In reality, you might argue that flagging a child is teaching him in the right way, but don’t think we can learn from the Americans and why they have embraced this scheme of not beating their child.
America is much older and more mature as a country than Nigeria, so don’t you think they’ve really passed the stage we’re at? They would have thought through the benefits and drawbacks of beating a child and would have concluded that the best choice is not to beat a child.
As Nigerians, we worry about child abuse, child harassment, and the rest, but you don’t think we need to look at it in a general way first.
What if there is a law in our nation that says we can stop beating kids and if anyone does, there will be consequence..
There are also incidents of domestic abuse that are mostly recorded after the violence has happened, explanations being that at first no one sees beating a child as a crime and that it might escalate to something more if someone does it over and over again.
Did you wonder for a second that the Americans were not flogging kids there?
Here are 3 reasons why they don’t
1) Hitting or beating children teaches them to become beaters also.
Do you know that there is still learning for the children we tend to grow up? They learn from our every action, so they copy everything we do. They seem to have a great deal of association with it if they see you beating your wife and it becomes part of them. In reality, they copy all the stuff we do and say.
We prefer to tell our kids to do something most of the time, so when they see us doing something different from what we told them, they feel confused. But trust me when I say that visual experience teaches them more. So be careful who you beat, because your kids may end up beating someone else as well.
So the Americans tend to set an example of how their children should grow up without seeing domestic violence and I think we should adopt that too.
2) Flogging a child distract them from learning
The Americans believe that when they flog there children,the child get distracted about knowing any other way to resolve conflict in a better way that getting physical with that person. That is why most American parents prefer talking their child than flogging him or her.
John Holt once said”When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead on its tracks” That means a child will stop learning and getting afraid to tell you things when you make them afraid by flogging them.
3) Anger and Frustration
The Americans believe that beating a child makes some of them more angry and frustrated and through this they store up all this anger till when they can do something about it.
Have you heard the true story of a girl called Sherifat in at Ikorodu in Lagos state,she has been storing up anger and frustration for a long time due to the fact that her uncle usually beat her and her body was always filled with bruises,one faithful day when he did this again. She took into her body just because of the everyday frustration.
Every child needs instructions without having fear in them to actually go through what you told them. They need to be far away from things that make them afraid like flogging or beating them.
We need our children not to see violence as a teaching anymore but a negative feeling we don’t need. These reasons should make you want to adopt the way the Americans treat their children by not flogging.
