Renowned Nollywood actor Daniel Etim-Effiong has candidly shared insights about a chapter of his life many might not have expected. The popular film star disclosed that he once explored the lifestyle of womanizing, describing it as a significant learning experience.
In a recent conversation with media personality Chude Jideonwo, Etim-Effiong reflected on his past, revealing how dating multiple women at a time shaped his understanding of relationships and personal fulfilment.
When Chude asked, “Were you a womanizer before you got married?” the actor responded, “It depends on what is your definition of a womanizer.”
Chude clarified, “A man who dates multiple women at the same time.”
To this, Etim-Effiong admitted, “Maybe there was a time in my life I was. Definitions would differ, but in that definition, maybe there was a period in my life that I was, I wouldn’t say for long periods of my life. Maybe for some certain periods that I explored. So, perhaps.”
Asked whether those times were good for him, the actor responded, “Yes, they were periods of learning for me. If I learned, then they were good periods.”
Speaking on what those experiences taught him, Etim-Effiong shared a valuable lesson: “I learned that certain things don’t necessarily bring you the fulfilment that you think they would. On paper, it feels like that is the life, but in experientially maybe not.”
He went on to advise young people about the dangers of embracing a player lifestyle, stressing that habits formed before marriage often persist into married life. “I tell young people a lot that it is cool to be a player but if you develop that habit or lifestyle, you won’t automatically change overnight.”
He continued, “So, don’t develop something you don’t want to continue for the rest of your life. If you are not able to commit to one person, if you jump from one relationship to another, that won’t automatically change when you marry.”
Offering a sobering reflection, Etim-Effiong noted, “When you marry that muscle hasn’t been developed so you encounter one challenge and you want to immediately jump or you just be like, ‘I’m talking to you, you are not listening to me, let me find somebody that would listen to me.’”
He added, “If you are the kind of person that before you got married it was easy for you to just walk away, keep different relationships, keep ladies on the string, that won’t change when you get married.”
